On behalf of The Law Office of Gustavo E. Frances, P.A.
Visitation schedules are an essential aspect of the divorce process. It is very important to choose a visitation schedule that works well for both parents and the children. Whether you and your former spouse can come up with your own visitation arrangement or the court helps you create one, make it fun and a priority to have quality time with your children. Remember every moment spent with your kids is special to them.
Your children should understand the schedule
It all depends on the age of your kids. Minor children may not understand a complex visitation schedule. You should help them make an easy transition between homes. They should not feel uncomfortable with the arrangement but rather excited to spend time with each parent. Children generally feel safe when they have a reliable agenda or calendar they can read and understand. Place a copy of the calendar in a location your children can reach. They can decorate it and make it colorful. You will be surprised how they will remind you and help you with all the details and arrangements.
Plan ahead of time
Once your children are used to the visitation schedule, they will anticipate their time with you. While it is okay to change the schedule in order to meet your children’s needs, you should plan these changes ahead of time or it will confuse your kids. You must also inform your former spouse of any changes or adjustments made to the schedule. If you have a special request, offer something in exchange. Your co-parent will most likely consider the request when you offer something in exchange.
Make the most of it
There are so many ways to have fun with your kids without spending a lot of money. It is easy to allow the daily stresses get in the way of life. Just take some time before every visitation to organize your thoughts. Plan fun activities such as visits to local parks and kid-friendly places. Keep your routine yet make an effort to make this time with them special.
In between visitation
It is important you keep in touch with your kids throughout the week, especially if you are the non-custodial parent. Whether that means a phone call, text or Skype video chat, better communication will definitely nurture your relationship. Remember your relationship with your children takes a lifetime to build.
Don’t overschedule – Be more spontaneous
While planning your time with your kids can be very rewarding, you don’t want to overdo it. Ask them what activities they prefer or places they would like to visit. Stick to their routine and make the schedule consistent. It will be easier for you and your former spouse as well. Stick to the regular visitation schedule and make sure everybody’s on the same page.